After weeks of looking forward to it, our little family vacation is over, and it's back to reality, back to the real world of our everyday lives--and that's okay! It's nice to get away, and YES, sometimes we just NEED to snap out of the routine to keep ourselves from going absolutely insane. This is especially true in the summertime! Vegas was fun and relaxing, and I had lots of laughs and shared memories with people I love. I'm glad to be back though--no place like home, that's true for sure!
Something's been on my mind for a few weeks now, and I find myself absentmindedly thinking this topic through over and over again in my spare time. The long drive to Vegas was perfect for thinking (and sleeping!), so in those moments I was conscious, I found myself staring out the window and honestly pondering this little thing called love.
What about love? What is love? How does it start, and how does it end? How can something that starts off as vividly and passionately as a fairytale romance end up as torturous and bloody as a scene from a horror film? How do two strangers "find" each other? How do connections begin? How do two people fall so deeply in love despite fully understanding each others' flaws and peculiarities? How does a friendship turn into something deeper? And when is it worth it to take that jump, to take that risk to decide to be "more than friends?" And even if you do find that special someone, could love really stand the test of time?
I believe the desire to be loved is part of human nature, as is the desire to have "someone." If you stop and think about this, it could get pretty overwhelming. Out of 6 billion folks living on this planet, we're supposed to find "the One"? So given that the world population is half male and half female, this gives everyone about a 1 in 3 billion chance of finding that One. Okay. Agreed. I exaggerate. But cooome on... does anyone else see how mind-blowing and absolutely amazing it is that people find each other?!?! It's ridiculous! And yet I've been blessed with countless examples of strong and happy marriages in my personal life... so it's definitely possible!
Here's my take on this. I believe God has made someone just for me, who won't serve the purpose of making me feel "complete" (because I should feel complete all on my own), but will stand as a good balance, complementing my personality and just being the perfect blend of the little things I love, need, want, and look for in a good man. And I also believe that at some point in time, this man's path will cross my own, since we were fated to be together.
Sounds too much like a fairytale? Sometimes I admit, it does, but I still believe it. I mean, I'm not sitting in my room, looking outside my window for Mr. Right to come walking down the street and knocking on the door. Of course, I'm living my life and seeing the opportunities the world has to offer. I'm not gonna trying to be a hypocrite though. I'll be the first to admit there are those times where it just gets to you, all this stuff. When is he gonna come? How am I gonna know he's the One? What if I'm wrong? Am I willing to put my heart on the line this time? At this point, I really don't know what I'm thinking. I have a feeling this topic's gonna be in my head for quite a while still, and I'll definitely post more about it here, when I get the chance. As for now, here are a few quotes I've come across that I've found quite interesting. Enjoy!
A woman's heart should be so lost in God that a man must seek Him to find her.I build walls around my heart not to isolate myself, but to see who's willing to go through the trouble of climbing the walls to reach my heart.
I think the second quote presents a problem...I think the first quote...is also a problem...haha. It is my opinion that there is not just "one" person for us. There are many potential good matches...but we won't likely meet them all. I think it is important to be open to the possibilities...but with a sober mind.
ReplyDeletehmm that's an interesting perspective... i believe we do have many potential good matches (which is why we connect with our exes, etc.) but i still think that one of those "potentials" towers over the rest, and it's that one which we were meant to end up with. perhaps more than one of those can come by a person's life, in the case of divorce, death of a spouse, etc.
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't agree that exes fall in the category of good potential matches...rather the contrary...more to learn what doesn't work and what sorta relationship isn't gonna last. I think that when a relationship is good it is clear...to everyone.
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